Are you incredibly self destructive?



Emcon

Goalkeeper
Serious question... Are you self destructive in your personal life?

I've an addictive personality, coupled with the fact I deeply fear commitment and its caused me no end of problems.

When things are going right do you self sabotage or am I alone?
Self Destruction is a sub-conscious action and is driven by some massive and unspoken contradiction, or dissonance in your life... If you go down that route long enough, the sub-conscious becomes a conscious act and the transition between the two is the critical point you need to seek help.
 

ajthemackem

Striker
Liked the 1st joke mate
Didn't enjoy the second one....
Wouldn't take it to heart chief.
But aye, honestly. Realising that you're doing it is a great first step. There are also triggers - alcohol, boredom... Could be owt.
Personally gambling tends to my destructive behaviour and it always comes about through alcohol. So I closed most of my accounts, put limits on the other two and it keeps me from doing it to excess on a whim.
Obviously it depends on what destructive triggers and habits you yourself have but it helps to recognise and do things to mitigate both what sets you off on one and the situations or behaviour that you indulge in.

It's tricky but very doable. Good luck.
Edit:

Obviously, counselling too - especially as certain things aren't really possible to mitigate and you need to dig a bit deeper to solve them.
 
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South Banker Wolf

Central Defender
Serious question... Are you self destructive in your personal life?

I've an addictive personality, coupled with the fact I deeply fear commitment and its caused me no end of problems.

When things are going right do you self sabotage or am I alone?
Good thread.
I’ve gone from 90’s rave , footie home and away , bookies home and away , clothes and whatever else comes along in the boozer. Managed to maintain a relationship and marriage but the novelty wore off and it’s easy to get back to square 1 as there seems a lot of lads in the same position. We are not alone.
 

Drexl

Central Defender
As I said, it's incredibly common. It's far less common that people are self-aware enough to understand themselves and tackle it.
I think mine stems from a tendency for thinking the worst in people and deep rooted believe that no one actually cares about me. Except for my local takeaway owner, bugger would be out of business without me!
 

PrisonBroken

Midfield
Self harming yes but I'm incredibly loyal.
My best friend I made at two, had all the others by 12 with one exception.

Met my wife and decided she was the one for me 4 days later, I've never cheated.

I often wonder what will happen if I betray them or they me but nothing good is my guess
 
I was terrible when I had PMDD. It's linked to female hormones. In the latter half of my cycle when my progesterone levels rose, I just completely trashed myself and didn't want to be alive.

I still struggle a bit with binge eating. I have a setback and I'm in the cupboards munching on stuff. I need to work on stopping that.
 

EDGE

Striker
I was terrible when I had PMDD. It's linked to female hormones. In the latter half of my cycle when my progesterone levels rose, I just completely trashed myself and didn't want to be alive.

I still struggle a bit with binge eating. I have a setback and I'm in the cupboards munching on stuff. I need to work on stopping that.
Stop buying it man.
 

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