Are you happy? Is your life going well?



Not too bad. Financially it is crap. Work is on its arse at the minute so earning less than usual. Older bairn is doing really well at school and thriving at dancing which is her main passion. My lad is in reception and has settled well but has some issues which the teachers as well as a speech therapist are working through with us. Brother is still in prison.

Reading that back it sounds shit but I try to be positive these days.
 
Nope, never been 'happy' since my (so called) friend fell out with me 18 months ago. My life feels so empty without her even though I have other great friends and my kids who I adore. I'd love to be truely happy again but it feels so far away.

Bloody hell, that's awful, so sorry to read that. What a shit time for you xx
Always inspired when I read your posts. Can't imagine handling life the way you do with the circumstances you have.

Hope this post comes across as it is intended.
Reading these posts it must be shit being the glass half empty type and i dont mean that in bad way .I've had some really tough times and never been sailing along but i've always had a positive outlook .I do know people who are just never happy or content andd its not like its a choice ,some people are just different .It must be a bummer because life's too short .
I'm one of the glass half empty types. Been like that since about 10 years old. Wish I could change but I can't.
 
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Time for sleep rinse and repeat
You OK marra?
Couldn't be happier.
Consider myself retired, for all intents and purposes. Live in the sun in a nice little house. I don't for about 12 hours a week, which I don't really consider to be work, (most of the time). If I need any extra money, which isn't very often, I just do a few extra gigs.
I'm married to a woman with whom I'm still waiting for our first argument after almost eight years: we just get on and she gives me no chew at all.
I do a couple of shows with lads who are a great laugh and simply couldn't imagine being happier.

Just wish I was a bit younger so that I would have more years to enjoy it all.
Living the dream. Fair play marra.
Sex has a lot to do with maintaining happiness I think .When I’m chewed to bits at work (build up to Xmas being the worst time of year) I crave to get in and mucked into our lass.
My bad moods tend to be lack of sex related. If I was a single bloke going weeks or months without I'd be even worse.
 
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I think you get to a point in life (I'm 52) when you become realistic about what to expect from life. You no longer think it's an easy glide along,and, as long as it's not too unlucky and cruel (and as we all know it can be) then you're content enough.

I'm of a similar age. I used to always be a bit fraught about employment and financial (and in turn a roof over our heads) security. Now I've mainly achieved the latter I don't really care much about the former. Even have a bit of a devil-may-care attitude at graft nowadays (without being nasty or an arsehole). I'm in probably the biggest comfort zone I've been in since I was a teenager.
 
I'm one of the glass half empty types. Been like that since about 10 years old. Wish I could change but I can't.
If you can pinpoint a specific time when your glass "spilled", can you also recognise a reason for it happening? Maybe by looking at why it started, you can find a solution.

Our of not, maybe, have a regular look back over good things you've done. Things you've achieved, (no matter how little they may seem to you). Things you've done that you're proud of. Friends you've made. People you've helped in any way: no matter how trivial. (It may be that it is less trivial to them than it seems to you).

I understand that we're all wired up differently but I do believe that we can change our demeanour by changing our outlook. If you can't think of enough positive achievements to make a difference to the way you feel, go out and create some. It's astounding how much you can help yourself by helping others.

Sorry if I seem to be singling you out here, marra. It's something that I believe we can all try.

I do a lot of things for other people but I'm well aware that I'm really doing them for myself.

Best of luck mate, (and all of the rest of you).

Be selfish by being selfless.
I’m doing OK still grieving the loss of my partner but lots to be greatful for. Our son has a lovely fiancée and they have set the date*. It’s been lovely sharing the excitement of buying their first home together and the engagement with them.

I’m fortunate to own a nice home and garden in a pleasant area with lovely neighbours. My late husband was a good provider so no worries about debt or anything like that.

I still work but only part time and my job is not stressful at all. I’m optimistic I still have much to look forward to in the future. Hope so at least.

* may even get to be a Grannie after this🤞
In spite of your loss, your positive outlook is a credit to you. I'm sure others will read this and be as uplifted by it as I have been.
 
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It's a bit over simplistic but I'm not sure there are good and bad decisions, just decisions that lead you on different paths. I sometimes have the same 'what if' thoughts about Oz, but if I'd stayed, there are things I would never have done and people I'd never have met.
There's another thread on the go about housing. I probably could have stopped in, saved up and bought a house as a young un. I would never have gone travelling, which gave me a lot of precious life skills that have helped in my career. A career that gave me options financially that allowed me to travel the world and to take a few years out to be a writer.
Was it the right choice? Some would have been perfectly happy with their mortgage paid off at 45 and cruising towards a civil service pension.
I try not to worry too much about 'mistakes' I've made in the past because they all lead to where I am and who I am now. If nowt else, they give me material for my books. :lol:
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Great attitude, marra.
More or less every decision I've made in life has been made on the basis of, "will I regret not doing it more than I'll regret doing it?" and then I invariably do it anyway, rightly or wrongly. Though, as you say, it's never really wrongly.
Would never get there. Always something else to be done.
You might not get there but you might enjoy the journey you have, trying.
 
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Always inspired when I read your posts. Can't imagine handling life the way you do with the circumstances you have.

Hope this post comes across as it is intended.

I'm one of the glass half empty types. Been like that since about 10 years old. Wish I could change but I can't.
Thank you so much, what a lovely thing to say 😊. I have been through some awful times (losing both my sisters so young, my daughter being born severely disabled and my son being diagnosed with autism are the worst) however I have always been a glass half full person and made the absolute best of everything life threw at me. After going through all that it was my ‘friend’ falling out with me that I struggled with so badly (and am still struggling) to recover from. I have been through so much worse but this just devastated me, I feel so betrayed and hurt.
Anyway it’s been 18 months now, I am slowly getting better and I’m sure I will get back to my normal cheerful self eventually. I just really miss being happy like I used to be when I had her in my life.
The pain of missing someone is just awful 😢.
 
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You OK marra?

Living the dream. Fair play marra.

My bad moods tend to be lack of sex related. If I was a single bloke going weeks or months without I'd be even worse.
I think it’s worse in women.I know some right battle-axes who get nowt/minge chows the top of their leg off but as soon as they go through a purple patch and their husbands buck them a couple of times it turns them normal for a bit.

Sex is like a tap opening on the brain to release the poison/pressure.
 
Comes and goes gilly lad.

Sounds bad mate. I’m starting to get a few daily aches and pains but I’m a bit older than you. Reading your post though has put them in perspective. I wish you well.

Didn’t seem to affect your performance on the bike when we did the C2C a few years ago mind…couldn’t keep up with ya! 😉
 
Not too bad. Financially it is crap. Work is on its arse at the minute so earning less than usual. Older bairn is doing really well at school and thriving at dancing which is her main passion. My lad is in reception and has settled well but has some issues which the teachers as well as a speech therapist are working through with us. Brother is still in prison.

Reading that back it sounds shit but I try to be positive these days.
My lad has speech and understanding issues too, he's 4 and in reception too (Hill View). It's difficult, he understands a lot and is improving. Had an autism assessment when he was 3 and they did a home and nursery assessment. Came back at not on the spectrum, we have another one scheduled in a few weeks.
 
My lad has speech and understanding issues too, he's 4 and in reception too (Hill View). It's difficult, he understands a lot and is improving. Had an autism assessment when he was 3 and they did a home and nursery assessment. Came back at not on the spectrum, we have another one scheduled in a few weeks.

He seems to understand things fine and his speech is getting better but still not where it should be and he gets frustrated. I don't think being locked down helped as he wasn't socialising with kids his own age for a long time. He hasn't had an autism assessment yet but our lass has a meeting with his teacher in a couple of weeks and is going to ask if they think he needs one. While doing a bit reading about autism I have started to think that I am possibly on the spectrum. Would like an assessment myself but I imagine with the way the NHS is struggling at the minute a 37 year old bloke who has managed a pretty normal life would be well down the list of priorities.
 

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