Are we losing parenting skills?


Tbh I have my pride in my family no matter what abilities they may have. Just cos a child may not be about to do things at a certain age it doesn't always mean it's someone's fault. Kids will learn at there own pace.
There is a difference between a child developing at a certain rate and children missing fundamental stages of their development because they aren't getting socialised or getting interaction.
 
A teacher was telling me a while back that given parents shove their kids on tablets the whole time to keep them occupied, they have terrible communication and social interaction skills and dont know how to hold a pencil. The other problem was that parents would never take accountability for their children's behaviour and never accept criticism.

Apart from undiagnosed medical/psychological issues, this must be one of the most difficult barriers to overcome. I think generally, kids benefit greatly from an open and receptive parent/teacher relationship.
 
There is a difference between a child developing at a certain rate and children missing fundamental stages of their development because they aren't getting socialised or getting interaction.

Again I'm not doubting that but there seems to be a rush to hit blame about just cos a child cant do something at a certain age. Some kids take to sport better than others. I certainly wouldn't blame a parent cos a child isn't a good footballer than others so parents shouldn't necessarily be blamed because they are not developed education wise as good as others
 
Again I'm not doubting that but there seems to be a rush to hit blame about just cos a child cant do something at a certain age. Some kids take to sport better than others. I certainly wouldn't blame a parent cos a child isn't a good footballer than others so parents shouldn't necessarily be blamed because they are not developed education wise as good as others
Again. Children have differing abilities and skills and everyone will progress at different rates. However, if certain mileposts are missed in development this can have a profound affect on a child. If a child is still in nappies in Reception there is cause for concern regarding the parenting in most of those cases, IMHO.
 
Vital mate pure organic brain development , what connects to what and how quick , it doesnt do its self . Lev Zygotski talked about a " zone of proximal learning " in kids, some things we can figure out, some are outside the zone and need interpretation. Reading is one
There’s a stat which is something like you’ll learn 90 odd percent of everything you'll
Ever learn between being born and 8 year old or something. Probably way off but you get my drift.
 
Again. Children have differing abilities and skills and everyone will progress at different rates. However, if certain mileposts are missed in development this can have a profound affect on a child. If a child is still in nappies in Reception there is cause for concern regarding the parenting in most of those cases, IMHO.

I'll not disagree with that but that wasn't what we were debating tbf
 
Again I'm not doubting that but there seems to be a rush to hit blame about just cos a child cant do something at a certain age. Some kids take to sport better than others. I certainly wouldn't blame a parent cos a child isn't a good footballer than others so parents shouldn't necessarily be blamed because they are not developed education wise as good as others

I’m not sure you can compare being able to dribble with a football well with being able to do basic communication skills or the ability to identify colours/letters/objects. One is necessity to get yourself started on a journey through life… the other is a nice to have
 
I’m not sure you can compare being able to dribble with a football well with being able to do basic communication skills or the ability to identify colours/letters/objects. One is necessity to get yourself started on a journey through life… the other is a nice to have

It still comes down to natural ability though. Wether it's sport, education and any amount of other things. Kids will take to certain things better than others
 
It still comes down to natural ability though. Wether it's sport, education and any amount of other things. Kids will take to certain things better than others
Of course but there are windows of learning.

If your child was still crawling rather than walking when starting school there would be a concern. I exaggerate a tad.

Every child is different. Most will learn their lavatory skills between the ages of 2 and three. Some earlier. A few later. If not mastered by four plus, something is likely wrong from developmental delay to poor role models.
 
Ah, kids aren't what they used to be. Some children take a little longer to toilet train, some aren't ready and get pushed to do it which has an adverse impact. It's not as straightforward as lazy parent Vs proactive parent.

Nothing's changed in kids from what they used to be that would affect their toilet training than how they are supported and developed in the home by their parents. Obviously it varies from child to child, but if the overall number of children not toilet trained by school has increased, that's down to parenting.
 
Little lasses would knock on the door and ask to take the baby out in the pram years ago
The better side of me would like to think that the reason for that declining is changes in socialisation and higher expectations for girls.
People romanticise about times gone by but in reality things were significantly worse than they are now. The amount of shit that was either deemed acceptable or brushed under the carpet is scary really.
Social conservatives have always wanted their fictitious Victorian values and respect. People are so much safer nowadays that it's not even worth engaging the notion.
 
I know. Keep up the good work mate. I was having a similar discussion with my 3 year old the other day between piano recitals.

Joking aside mate my youngun struggled like fuck academically when he first started school. Really struggled to retain stuff. He just seemed to find the whole learning really hard. Few meetings with school, new strategies put in place and now he's coming along champion. The initial struggles certainly wasn't down to any want of not caring on our part. So yes it does stick a tad to see people hoying blame about to the parents when it comes to it all
 

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