Are we losing parenting skills?


Increase in lazy parenting, scum happy to pump kids out but don't want them interfering with their lifestyles in any way. Quite happy to sit them in front of an ipad and get on with their day as normal.

My Mrs (no) did her teaching practice at a school in Gateshead and one of the bairns spoke with an American accent because they’d been plonked in front of the telly to watch cartoons for most of their early years. That was in 2001.
 
Teaching isn’t teaching anymore in a lot of schools. That’s the smallest part of the job.

Parent, social worker, psychologist etc. are the main duties that we seem to do in my school.

I’ve spent this morning completing various safeguarding documents to pass onto the local authority regarding neglect and potential abuse
The only good thing about that statement is that at least teachers do that nowadays.
Go round any run down street or estate and there's kids running everywhere. The parents couldn't care less.
Nothing has changed since the 80s then, except maybe it's just the run down streets and not all of them now.
 
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In the same breath, I often hear older people saying "it's a shame that kids don't play out anymore". Which is it?
We were out in the morning and back in at tea time. You are right like. Parents can't win with the sneering, judgey curtain twitchers. Probablys always been the case like.
 
OK mate.
You do need to keep in mind that there was once a time, when children were toilet trained before they went to school.
It was once expected and normal.
There were exceptions through learning difficulties or similar, but generally it was the norm.
It’s the norm.
 
It's absolute bollocks and some right superior people on this thread as there always seems to be on anything parent / child related.

Of course there are lazy parents, maybe even more so than there used to be. But there's also a lot more homes in modern life that have both parents (or single parents) out working all day and not at home the entire time to teach them.

It takes a lot of patience, time, cleaning / washing. Of course kids should use as toilet by school but it can be tough for some people
I’ll be a Granda before the years out and the daughter and our lass are going to have to both go part time to work around the bairn.Both need a job but either one of them first priority is that bairn.
That’s the way it should work in my opinion.
 
It is lazy parenting with a small number being SEND. My little boy is 3 in a few weeks time and Christ it has been hard work, but he is day trained and no longer has any accidents. Only time he has a nappy is bed time and that’s are next hurdle to attempt.

Pie Jnr will be 3 in April and we're currently on day 10 of potty training. Kept him off nursery for a couple of days so we had a 5 day run of it at home initially, then took it for there. Day 10 today and its the 3rd day with no accidents, really chuffed with how he's done.

Can't believe parents would live with the embarrassment of not training their kids before they start school.
 
It's the schools job to get kids reading properly. Yes parents can reinforce the work at school but if a kid can't read at all at 7 the school have done a monumentally shit job or there's some big underlying issues that are stopping them from learning
I agree mostly however I remember starting school and couldn’t really read very much and most of the other kids must have been to nursery or had parents who put the graft in.I was playing catch up for ages it seemed.
 
I see a lot of children in their homes via my job. Either Safeguarding reports, ASB related or just property inspection. I'll probably get pelters but from my experience there is a vast difference between social housing raised children and those raised outside of social housing. Whilst not the case all the time, obviously, I do find the same issues time and time again. No books, very little evidence of set bedtimes, single parent multi child dwelling, parent(s) not able to read and/or write, playing without supervision.. etc.

It could be that issues get raised more often in social housing due to higher interaction with local authority agencies vs private/non social housing. Although I very rarely go out to private homes.
 
My kid is possibly shit but she is in year two now and their hasn't been a single playground fight. In my day a week didn't go by without kids kicking lumps out of each other so it isn't all worse
 
Ah, kids aren't what they used to be. Some children take a little longer to toilet train, some aren't ready and get pushed to do it which has an adverse impact. It's not as straightforward as lazy parent Vs proactive parent.

I might be wrong but I think the OP has mentioned they're around 70, apologies if that is incorrect, some memory being able to recall the toilet habits in reception. Though I suppose memories aren't what they used to be either.
 

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