Goat Eyes
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Best advice on here.
Anyone not seen/spoken to their kids in a long time ?
- Thread starter Les the Scientist
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chunksafc
Striker
Little steps mate, just be honest with her and she will soon see. As much as it's hard what you missed, she missed her dad as being there as well.
I wish you all the luck in the world and pray you and your daughter end up with the relationship you should have
The soap powder
Winger
Good luck mate and it may of been a long time but its never too late to build a relationship but just go steady with the truth no matter how much you hate her mother. Just show her how good Les is first and the rest will come..... Good luck pal
CheersMarra84
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Happy you’re getting somewhere mate, had a bit of a nightmare myself with my ex, but no where near as bad as what you’ve been through.
arthursboy
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Good luck, the bairn must be terrified also, she has reached out for her dad, pick it up and don’t ever let it go.
elder
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best of luck @Les the Scientist & @chunksafc with your journeys...
Ciro_DiMarzio
Winger
Got a message from my daughter who's now 24. I've not seen her since she was 7, she now lives in Portsmouth. Her mum, if you can call her that, is beneath contempt. Sounds daft, but I thought I'd far more happy about finally getting somewhere, instead I actually feel bleedin petrified. Hard to keep a lid on the anger I feel towards her mum n all.
You've missed alot mate but if you have a chance to build a relationship with her you should grab it with both hands. Try to make it about you and the bairn not her mother.
My kids are 7 and 2 and I don't like spending a night away from them so I can't imagine the hurt you just have had missing out on your daughters childhood.
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Bloody hell mate, hope it all works out well for you both.
Hope things work out mate
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Good Bloke Fairly
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Different boat to kids, but I found out I had a sister about 4 years ago. She was 11 and seemed to want to get to know me so I cracked on. Couldn't afford to give her a tenner and take her out for food the weekend before pay day so she blocked me on everything. No surprise really, her mams one of the stereotypical dole bums.
She tried to add me back on Facebook about a year back. However selfish it might seem, I'm not entertaining it.
D.A
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Give her a chance, she's just a bairn.
Bob Fleming
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ilovehorswill
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Just how it works. Even if the mam is a certifiable wrongun, if they can prove the bloke isn't 100% perfect they almost always rule in favour of the mother.
She'd be straight off if she'd seen the Wycombe match
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Falconhoof
Winger
When I went to see my solicitor when me and the ex split up she told me on my first meeting "youre a man, you basically have no rights"
Shocking that.
Should just tell her to get back to you when shes grown up... or was it the mother who told her to ponce off you..
NewAdventuresInWiFi
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Have personally seen it from both sides now - from the being the child involved & parent perspective more recently & it’s absolutely devastating when it happens.
Sadly one of those things too that the longer time & absence goes on the harder it seems to be to correct it & right the wrong of it all if that’s even possible.
Horrible scenario to be in but I suppose you’ve got to keep faith & hope for a happy positive ending no matter what.
Sadly one of those things too that the longer time & absence goes on the harder it seems to be to correct it & right the wrong of it all if that’s even possible.
Horrible scenario to be in but I suppose you’ve got to keep faith & hope for a happy positive ending no matter what.
smoker
Striker
And people wonder why blokes are cynical about feminism.
My workmate's wife ran off with the next door neighbour. The neighbour's ex was so pissed off she tried to smash his front door in, her relatives have tried to give him a hiding and they've had to move home, take out various court orders and put CCTV all over their new house. The family courts somehow thought this living prison was the best place for my workmate's daughter. They don't give a shit about fathers or kids, just the mothers. As I've said for years, the British judicial system is institutionally sexist and infantilises women, so they aren't held accountable for their actions.
Best of luck to all lads on here fighting to see their kids. Thankfully our lass is sensible, I'd hate to think going through all this to see my girls.
My workmate's wife ran off with the next door neighbour. The neighbour's ex was so pissed off she tried to smash his front door in, her relatives have tried to give him a hiding and they've had to move home, take out various court orders and put CCTV all over their new house. The family courts somehow thought this living prison was the best place for my workmate's daughter. They don't give a shit about fathers or kids, just the mothers. As I've said for years, the British judicial system is institutionally sexist and infantilises women, so they aren't held accountable for their actions.
Best of luck to all lads on here fighting to see their kids. Thankfully our lass is sensible, I'd hate to think going through all this to see my girls.
chunksafc
Striker
Any update mate?
superdougle
Midfield
Wait till he’s 7 you’ll be crying out for overtime!
