First of all RIP to the lad.rip
can't even imagine it, the strength of character a person needs to fight cancer, that includes the survivors as well... :-(
Secondly, my wife had Breast Cancer and then Endometrial (sp) Cancer. It has completely changed her outlook on life. Mundane things like doing the dishes, tidying up the house etc. are just nowhere on her agenda. Spends her days doing what she wants to do. Reckons that it'll get her in the end so bollocks to all the crap chores.