snarlz II
Winger
Some great advice on this board as ever, thanks to all. We did the power of attorney thing a couple of years ago when my step dad unfortunately went the same way and his sons had a right time trying to sort it out as he was deemed incapable of making the decision. Funnily enough she still talks about him and his dementia without realising she has it herself. That in itself is a godsend I suppose.Sorry to hear your bad news mate.
Looking ahead you might want to start looking at things that will help while your mum still has a degree of lucidity, such as Power of Attorney (not cheap if you go through a solicitors) so you can help with financial/health affairs. Also ring up utility companies etc now and get your name added as a third party authority on accounts so you can discuss them (this costs nowt but what you can do on the accounts is limited). These steps can ease a lot of frustration later on.