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lucky said:
Honestly it does my head in mate , are you suicidal at the minute you say no and they just go. No wonder suicide is rife as not enough done about it.
Told you about our lasses cousin and she said she was suicidal when they came out but still took 3 days to get her sectioned :( .
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Awful. It's as if you have to actively lie just to get anywhere. Maybe then it becomes self fulfilling - i dunno., maybe there's no evidence for that like

@CPLforever mentioned their GP being good. No way am ringing mine unless am really desperate. Horrible little bloke seems to get assigned to me or maybe am paranoid and he just gets a lot of the triage calls.
 

de Ruyter said:
Awful. It's as if you have to actively lie just to get anywhere. Maybe then it becomes self fulfilling - i dunno., maybe there's no evidence for that like

@CPLforever mentioned their GP being good. No way am ringing mine unless am really desperate. Horrible little bloke seems to get assigned to me or maybe am paranoid and he just gets a lot of the triage calls.
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Mate your right and I honestly thought getting into the medical profession one of the main things you need is you need to care.
A lot of my appointments are just like an automated service with a human :( .
 
lucky said:
Mate your right and I honestly thought getting into the medical profession one of the main things you need is you need to care.
A lot of my appointments are just like an automated service with a human :( .
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Sometimes I've felt like they're just weary and resigned to concluding soz mate there's not a lot of help out there so try and get by
mackem1989 said:
Back on mental health I’m having a shit time with anxiety and paranoia had to speak to some team for help thinking everyone wants to ruin my life

Get the same comments drug use no
Drink rarely

So they now have to look into it

Feeling lonly as fuck too just doesn’t feel great, I feel isolated even though I’ve got people around me
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I meant to say, you're seriously not alone in feeling this way. Exactly how I've been lately
 
mackem1989 said:
Even though your a pain in the arse on the cricket thread (it’s a joke)

Your more than welcome to come stand with us in the south stand for the hull game we have a spare seat

Ah just seen the games, hope ya get sorted.



Back on mental health I’m having a shit time with anxiety and paranoia had to speak to some team for help thinking everyone wants to ruin my life

Get the same comments drug use no
Drink rarely

So they now have to look into it

Feeling lonly as fuck too just doesn’t feel great, I feel isolated even though I’ve got people around me
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See with me it's just not liking myself or not trusting people as iv had people waste my time or just use me coz they know I'm generous with buying people drinks etc, also not thinking I'm good enough for people and they won't like me it's horrible like.
 
chopsfc007 said:
See with me it's just not liking myself or not trusting people as iv had people waste my time or just use me coz they know I'm generous with buying people drinks etc, also not thinking I'm good enough for people and they won't like me it's horrible like.
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If your not good enough for some people **** them mate it's their loss.
 
chopsfc007 said:
See with me it's just not liking myself or not trusting people as iv had people waste my time or just use me coz they know I'm generous with buying people drinks etc, also not thinking I'm good enough for people and they won't like me it's horrible like.
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If someone thinks your not good enough for them, then it’s the other way around and they are not good enough for you,

I’m thinking of doing a little smb discord or WhatsApp,telegram relating to mental health so we can support eachother on or off the SMB
 
mackem1989 said:
If someone thinks your not good enough for them, then it’s the other way around and they are not good enough for you,

I’m thinking of doing a little smb discord or WhatsApp,telegram relating to mental health so we can support eachother on or off the SMB
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Really good idea mate 👍 anything that can take a bit stress off.
 
mackem1989 said:
Even though your a pain in the arse on the cricket thread (it’s a joke)

Your more than welcome to come stand with us in the south stand for the hull game we have a spare seat

Ah just seen the games, hope ya get sorted.



Back on mental health I’m having a shit time with anxiety and paranoia had to speak to some team for help thinking everyone wants to ruin my life

Get the same comments drug use no
Drink rarely

So they now have to look into it

Feeling lonly as fuck too just doesn’t feel great, I feel isolated even though I’ve got people around me
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They should always ask about drink and drugs just to rule them out as causes of how you are feeling. E.g. I am feeling Paranoid.....do you take cocaine?.....yes....thats probably why you feel paranoid..

You are doing the right thing tho, persevere. Treatment is our right but it is important to get the right treatment.

Keep pushing, you'll get there.
de Ruyter said:
Awful. It's as if you have to actively lie just to get anywhere. Maybe then it becomes self fulfilling - i dunno., maybe there's no evidence for that like

@CPLforever mentioned their GP being good. No way am ringing mine unless am really desperate. Horrible little bloke seems to get assigned to me or maybe am paranoid and he just gets a lot of the triage calls.
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The other thing I would say is always describe your worst day, your worst feeling, your worst fear.

If someone says do you feel suicidal my reply would be I have suicidal thoughts. Cos even at that moment you don't, maybe you did yesterday and you will tomorrow.

Like others have said it does nothing but exacerbate the problems and feelings you are already trying to cope with having to scatter around and beg people for help.
 
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mackem1989 said:
I’ve made a telegram link here

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link for telegram download.
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Sorry but I don't think I will be able to sign on. Not only am I about as tech savvy as a caveman but I also have a 25 year old phone that is definately not smart.
 
Baby steps here.

I found out today that I can do the Freedom programme online for £12. I've been on and off so many lists for that and passed from pillar to post due to funding and various other reasons, and I've never actually done it. I need to register and get on with that.
I put on weight while I was on the steroids and just generally being a pig over Christmas. I've not started any exercise but I manage to lose 3lb since the beginning of the month just through trying to resist eating junk!
Managed to do some little niggly jobs. Cleared out a load of old emails and tidied the rest up so things I still need are easier to find. Put some new sealant around the back door as the old stuff had shrunk away and draughts were coming in.
Had bloods done and inflammation levels are still high and I'm still getting crohn's symptoms. Need to speak to IBD nurse and say steroids haven't fully worked and find out what they want to do next.
A man belittles me on Hank's TV thread. I'm an easy target. I just have to remember that his problems are not my fault and to feel sorry for him that he has to pick on vulnerable women to make himself feel better.
Got advice on how to deal with the stalker. It has settled a bit but if he starts again, I've got a plan of action I can take.
Didn't get the EDF or charity jobs I applied for. Just noticed some more jobs this evening that I can apply for, so I'll do that tomorrow after work.
 
S.S.R.. said:
I know a lot of us can feel blue and unmotivated, but does anyone else have major problems with anger?

It's my Achilles heel. I've never been the best at asserting myself and my coping strategies are nonexistent.
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Mentioned earlier in the thread I'm often full of hell for no reason but I suppress it well until I am on my own. Weird feeling mind.
 
mackem1989 said:
If someone thinks your not good enough for them, then it’s the other way around and they are not good enough for you,
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This is what I've been struggling with. As I've said before that I've been in a violent relationship and since then I struggle to trust men. It makes it hard for me to have close relationships with men due to past experiences. I struggle with dating sites as I'm so wary of strangers and I've only asked out men after I've got to know them and feel that I trust them.

I had a male friend that I was close to. I liked him and shared a lot of personal information and trusted him. All of a sudden, he just cut me off for no apparent reason. We hadn't argued or anything and I looked back through the last few chat messages but they were all just ordinary everyday chat. I have tried to contact him to find out what I did to upset him so much but he's blocked me on social media and on here, so I can't speak to him. I've since found out it's called ghosting. Lack of closure really messed with my head and I've to kind of grieve the loss as I valued the friendship.
 
Becs said:
Baby steps here.

I found out today that I can do the Freedom programme online for £12. I've been on and off so many lists for that and passed from pillar to post due to funding and various other reasons, and I've never actually done it. I need to register and get on with that.
I put on weight while I was on the steroids and just generally being a pig over Christmas. I've not started any exercise but I manage to lose 3lb since the beginning of the month just through trying to resist eating junk!
Managed to do some little niggly jobs. Cleared out a load of old emails and tidied the rest up so things I still need are easier to find. Put some new sealant around the back door as the old stuff had shrunk away and draughts were coming in.
Had bloods done and inflammation levels are still high and I'm still getting crohn's symptoms. Need to speak to IBD nurse and say steroids haven't fully worked and find out what they want to do next.
A man belittles me on Hank's TV thread. I'm an easy target. I just have to remember that his problems are not my fault and to feel sorry for him that he has to pick on vulnerable women to make himself feel better.
Got advice on how to deal with the stalker. It has settled a bit but if he starts again, I've got a plan of action I can take.
Didn't get the EDF or charity jobs I applied for. Just noticed some more jobs this evening that I can apply for, so I'll do that tomorrow after work.
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Can I ask what the Freedom programme is?

You are, despite how you have been feeling seeming to be getting on with things. That can be bloody hard in itself. Well done and keep it up.
CPLforever said:
Can I ask what the Freedom programme is?

You are, despite how you have been feeling seeming to be getting on with things. That can be bloody hard in itself. Well done and keep it up.
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See to me that's just a cowards trick and like you said in your previous post, his problems and issues are not your fault.
 
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Becs said:
Thank you. It's hard but we have to keep going.

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Hope everything works out mate and we all here for you ❤️. I have no idea about what happened with the person you were messaging but could he have been hurt in the past or is he just being a dick ?
Am just trying to think as definitely what was said before it's his loss if he is being a dick as you seem such a lovely person.
 
Becs said:
This is what I've been struggling with. As I've said before that I've been in a violent relationship and since then I struggle to trust men. It makes it hard for me to have close relationships with men due to past experiences. I struggle with dating sites as I'm so wary of strangers and I've only asked out men after I've got to know them and feel that I trust them.

I had a male friend that I was close to. I liked him and shared a lot of personal information and trusted him. All of a sudden, he just cut me off for no apparent reason. We hadn't argued or anything and I looked back through the last few chat messages but they were all just ordinary everyday chat. I have tried to contact him to find out what I did to upset him so much but he's blocked me on social media and on here, so I can't speak to him. I've since found out it's called ghosting. Lack of closure really messed with my head and I've to kind of grieve the loss as I valued the friendship.
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Becs as you know a few years back my 'friend' done exactly the same to me, good friends one minute then fell out with me for no reason (that I know of) and has never spoke to me again since. She also blocked me everywhere. I was heartbroken and devastated, the not knowing what I had done or why she done it really messed my head up. It took me at least two years to start to feel ok again. I still think of her to this day and it still upsets me but I have to try and think of it as her loss, and is she really a loss if she could do this to me. My feelings when she fell out with me were just like grief, she was a huge part of my life then just gone.
It's really horrible when you have no answers, I don't trust anyone now that hasn't been in my life for ages xx
 
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