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rey mysterio said:
Thanks everyone. Feel a little bit better today. I always try to put a brave face on and not let things appear that they get to me. But it has a nasty tendency of boiling over and when it does I feel horrific. Feel like a leper trying to apply for jobs now.

Got the kids here today (they’re 9 and 8) scranning their eggs which has made me feel a bit better, left none for me though :)
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Ahhh pleased the bairns are there and just stay as strong as you can, putting a brave face on I get that 100% but you learn quickly who your friends are when you at rock bottom.
 

rey mysterio said:
Thanks everyone. Feel a little bit better today. I always try to put a brave face on and not let things appear that they get to me. But it has a nasty tendency of boiling over and when it does I feel horrific. Feel like a leper trying to apply for jobs now.

Got the kids here today (they’re 9 and 8) scranning their eggs which has made me feel a bit better, left none for me though :)
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Hope you and the bairns have a good day mate. Just pinch one of the little fuckers eggs. Tell them it’s a bad egg. That’s what me dar done to me haha

Glad you’re feeling a bit better mate.
 
Phasing out a few flakey 'pals' for the sake of my self-esteem and sanity. Anyone else got crap mates it's hard to detach from because you've had good times in the past?

How do you do it, slowly eke away, have a dramatic airing of the grievances or just ghost 'em?
 
S.S.R.. said:
Phasing out a few flakey 'pals' for the sake of my self-esteem and sanity. Anyone else got crap mates it's hard to detach from because you've had good times in the past?

How do you do it, slowly eke away, have a dramatic airing of the grievances or just ghost 'em?
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All my mates been usually OK but there is ones that did just take the piss and in the end I changed my sim card and was the best thing I could have done and wished I had listened to my lass sooner. Was easier for me though not on any Facebook or twitter or owt.
 
S.S.R.. said:
Phasing out a few flakey 'pals' for the sake of my self-esteem and sanity. Anyone else got crap mates it's hard to detach from because you've had good times in the past?

How do you do it, slowly eke away, have a dramatic airing of the grievances or just ghost 'em?
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Aye pal. You find out who your mates are in times of need. I have met a lad off here who I won’t mention but he’s a proper pal now.

If they don’t care about you when you need them like this. Half the fuckers you will find out are just drinking mates.

Do what’s best for you mate. Keep on keeping on.

All the best everyone. Love Rhubarb. X
 
Rhubarb said:
Aye pal. You find out who your mates are in times of need. I have met a lad off here who I won’t mention but he’s a proper pal now.

If they don’t care about you when you need them like this. Half the fuckers you will find out are just drinking mates.

Do what’s best for you mate. Keep on keeping on.

All the best everyone. Love Rhubarb. X
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I don't know why, but you user name always makes me smile and brightens up my day 😃
 
Waskerly Mackem said:
Update time and oh boy it's a roller coaster.

I returned to work recently on phased return. The two managers above me are now different people, with the problem manager having walked off the job while I was on the sick. I also decided that to avoid issues by basically asking and asking again if not sure of something if only to cover my arse. That I am doing for sure.

So it was hugs all around from the people I was closest to once I walked through the door. And boy things had changed.

The number of people in my department is about two thirds what it was. One person has left with depression and might have been moved on. Two people have left for other jobs, with one going before potential dismissal. Two people have been sacked. Two are on final warnings and others have also had varying sick leave. These are people that were okay prior to last August.

So it appears since my problems started with problem manager last August, others have had similar. It's only because people have started talking to each other that people have realised the scale of the problem. It turns out it wasn't just me dealing with a problem manager, more a case of a more general management problem. There seems to have been a concerted effort to get the head count down without having to pay people off and there's some very unhappy people.

Only a few weeks back and I got told bluntly not to help two colleagues, with a minor concern over a minor typo in a document dismissed out of hand. So it's a toxic atmosphere.

I and two work buddies all applied for a job in another area and all of us have been made offers (by coincidence two of the prettier ladies in the department - no!!!). So we're coordinating and seeing if we can all stay together. I've accepted the offer and I've background checks in progress.

It really is time to go.

My mild AD-HD and mild ASD diagnoses will go through, with my mental health appointment in the not too distant future for initial assessment. These are admittedly three months late, apparently due to an outbreak of flu in the mental health department. Occupational Health and phone chats with NHS mental health nurses concur that there will be diagnoses.
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At the rate people are leaving, the department will not be able to function properly before long unless they recruit and recruitment just isn't happening.

I've seen this before with a previous employer, there were mass redundancies and the plant (a manufacturer) is now closed.
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I saw the NHS Specialist a couple of days ago.

High Functioning Asperger's is the official outcome. He was old school so prefers the pre-2012 definitions rather than lumping everyone under the Autism Spectrum Disorder banner. That is helpful, as the words actually describe me. So I'm the same as Chris Packham. 🙂 I feel relief.

So now back to Occupational Health for reasonable adjustments, which I'll need, old or new job.
 
Waskerly Mackem said:
I saw the NHS Specialist a couple of days ago.

High Functioning Asperger's is the official outcome. He was old school so prefers the pre-2012 definitions rather than lumping everyone under the Autism Spectrum Disorder banner. That is helpful, as the words actually describe me. So I'm the same as Chris Packham. 🙂 I feel relief.

So now back to Occupational Health for reasonable adjustments, which I'll need, old or new job.
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You keep going mate 👍
 
TAD said:
I don't know why, but you user name always makes me smile and brightens up my day 😃
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Hahaha cheers mate glad it puts a smile on someone’s face
Waskerly Mackem said:
I saw the NHS Specialist a couple of days ago.

High Functioning Asperger's is the official outcome. He was old school so prefers the pre-2012 definitions rather than lumping everyone under the Autism Spectrum Disorder banner. That is helpful, as the words actually describe me. So I'm the same as Chris Packham. 🙂 I feel relief.


So now back to Occupational Health for reasonable adjustments, which I'll need, old or new job.
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Hope your doing well mate

How are we all doing this fine Friday night? I hope everyone is doing the best they can and remember to keep on keeping on.

Have a nice weekend folks. Love Rhubarb. Xx
 
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Rhubarb said:
Hello lucky. How are you doing my friend. Hope you and family are well. You upto much the neet?
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Me and the Mrs just having a lazy night got a big 2 weeks the councils moving us out so we having to stay elsewhere while they sort out all the damp. Hope you and everyone else are doing OK as well but thank you for asking.
 
lucky said:
Me and the Mrs just having a lazy night got a big 2 weeks the councils moving us out so we having to stay elsewhere while they sort out all the damp. Hope you and everyone else are doing OK as well but thank you for asking.
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Ah I hope everything goes smoothly as can be mate. Owt nice for tea? I’m just on to make a chicken tikka madras. Council moving you far away.
 
Rhubarb said:
Ah I hope everything goes smoothly as can be mate. Owt nice for tea? I’m just on to make a chicken tikka madras. Council moving you far away.
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Sorry my mate fell asleep I'm so tired these days and moving from seaham to sunderland for 2 weeks, I'm from sunderland originally so not to bad and ooooh love a chicken madras ha.
 
lucky said:
Sorry my mate fell asleep I'm so tired these days and moving from seaham to sunderland for 2 weeks, I'm from sunderland originally so not to bad and ooooh love a chicken madras ha.
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Hi mate. How are we doing?

How’s everyone doing after the weekend. Hope we are all as well as can be.

Sending me love. Rhubarb. Xx
 
becs said:
I'm a bit surprised and saddened by people posting I've been banned, deleted etc. I've not even spoken to these people.

I've talked on here before about PTSD and the struggles I have. I've been in a situation recently that triggered off past trauma. I'm currently dealing with a lot of negative thoughts and keeping away from the person who triggered it.
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Take care Becs, look after yourself
 
Ciro_DiMarzio said:
Big wobble last night. Had a good day today but it's gone tits up again. Fuming with myself from r the faith in myself and other people. Absolute idiot.
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Things don't go smoothly and wobbles are had. Draw a line under it as much as you can and keep focused on the good days/stuff. I fully understand this is easier said than done but posting on here was a start of that. Good luck
 
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