Are you happy? Is your life going well?



I'm alright as long as I don't ask myself this question and start thinking too much. Definitely feeling like a mid life crisis coming on, hitting 40 and thinking 'is this it?'
 
work, finances and home life all good for me.

the only thing that's not ok is the father in law. it sounds terrible but when he goes it really will be a blessing. he's 92 and lost his wife of 60 years 18 months ago and since then he's failed quite rapidly. i go over on a weekend so he can shower as he's a bit scared of falling over and there being nobody there. he did a while back and i had to pick him up. we all try our best to make whatever time he has left as comfortable as possible.
he's a very devout man and isn't scared of death in the slightest. he just hopes it's painless and in his sleep. we've had some great conversations about it and the only thing upsets him is if his children have any hassle sorting his stuff out. just last night he was telling us where his list of hymns is that he wants at his funeral! the mrs will be devastated as will all the family. everything he (and his wife) have done has been for his kids. they could've had a nicer home in a nicer area but he wanted to give them the best childhood they could have and help them later on in their lives. both mine are gone and it took me quite a while to accept being an adult orphan tbh. but that's the cycle of life.

apologies for the morbid post.
 
Nookie Bear said:
Aye the pandemic has certainly changed our lives , managed to sell our house for more than we ever imagined and allowed us to move to a lovely new one closer to my parents - the joys of a detached house in a quiet village coupled
with the ability to pop ten mins down the road
to see them is ideal.

Gone from a really stressful job via a slight stroke to working at home for another team and having every weds off to chill which has really helped with my health issues.

Last thing to be sorted is another surgery to turn my innie stoma into a outie one which is happening early Dec
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What a great attitude. Good luck nookie.
 
I retired in June and although I enjoyed the two jobs I had (34 and 15 years) I am lucky to be the happiest I've been.
It hasn't been plain sailing by any means but however long I have left I intend to enjoy as much as possible.
Mind you this last long weekend in Belfast has probably shortened it a bit ;)
 
Been unhappy for a while due to work arrangements. Working away is not for me. Sleeping in shit accommodation, eating shit food and put unnecessary strain on relationships at home. Money is great, but money ≠ happiness. Fortunately found a great job back home, which I will be starting in the new year. That old cliché - new year, new me … or rather old me!
 
monkeytassle said:
I'm like that.

Is my life going well? Yes. Can't even begin to think I'd end up like this. Am I happy? Moderately but I'll never be completely happy. Too competitive.
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Yeah I’m very like that. It’s what makes be successful in my job but it comes at a price. I’m almost incapable of enjoying any good bits because I know they’re all forgotten as soon as the next week roles around.

That spills over into personal life and I have become very matter of fact / pessimistic in most cases.

Jesus I’m a miserable bastard 😂
 
Life going well in almost any reasonable measure, but happiness? Nah. Hard to be happy when one is surrounded by people insistent upon constantly focusing on the one cloud in any blue sky and one cannot in any way avoid such people.
 
Spike said:
I’m generally quite chilled and positive about life. I have a good lifestyle, I’m healthy-ish, got a loving family and partner, dog, friends, interests and hobbies that I get to pursue to the full. It’s been a hard year or so with good bits and bad though, I pushed myself in my career and made massive steps forward, I’m making a lot more money than most my age round here now, I bought a house with our lass that we could only have dreamed about a couple of year ago. Went through some horrible shit at work though last year, really nasty ugly politics that rolled on for months, its hard to let go of and move on from, it put a massive strain on my mental health and my relationship with our lass, there was a lot at stake and it’s all over with now and I’ve landed on my feet but I still ruminate about it and really resent a few people for how I was treated. It’s a long story not for this thread but it took the shine off a massive achievement that I worked really hard for while everyone was making banana bread and watching tiger king, it’s had a lasting effect and after all the stress, grievances and investigations etc there was no good reason for any of it, I was simply shafted because it was more convenient for a few people and there was nothing I could do about it with the information I had at the time, was a sour life lesson though that I won’t fall for again, trust me - don’t take anyone’s word for anything, don’t ever put yourself in a position where you need something from someone and generally remember that people go to work to see to themselves first and foremost, colleagues are never proper friends really. I also lost an uncle suddenly who was central to our family, it’s brought us even closer together in some ways even though we were already close.
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Sorry to hear you've had a bad experience there from the sounds of it - hope you're able to get through it at some point. Particularly because the "colleagues are never proper friends really" sounds like it's really tarnished those relationships for you and it made me sad to read it. A few of my best, most enduring friends are people I've met at work over the years. One in the UK for more than 30 years, from my first day at work after college, and 2-3 here in the US, one for more than 15 years and the other 2 probably 10 years each. Hope your experience doesn't completely serve to shut down that opportunity for you in future. All the best
 
Up until 36 it was amazing, then my dad died.
Eight years later it is slowly getting better.
If I'd been hit by a bus I didn't see at 35 I'd have had no complaints
 
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