Can doing something terrible stick on a persons conscience for life?

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This happened years ago, a school lad was chased by a bunch of school lads on bunny hill, the lad getting chased ended up getting ran over and died. Every time I pass bunny hill I think about that lad and if the lads who caused it still feel guilty to this day and are ashamed for the rest of their lives.
 


safcrob said:
This happened years ago, a school lad was chased by a bunch of school lads on bunny hill, the lad getting chased ended up getting ran over and died. Every time I pass bunny hill I think about that lad and if the lads who caused it still feel guilty to this day and are ashamed for the rest of their lives.
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Terrible thing. Everyone's entitled to a chance to move on if they're sorry and change their behaviour. Hope they have done so, and hope they have found peace.
 
Yes. I saw a lad who was regularly bullied getting a good hiding on the way home from school one day and just walked past. I couldn't have took the bullies on without getting a hiding myself but still feel bad that I did nothing at the time.

There have been other things that I've been at fault for a d I've never forgot as well like.
 
safcrob said:
This happened years ago, a school lad was chased by a bunch of school lads on bunny hill, the lad getting chased ended up getting ran over and died. Every time I pass bunny hill I think about that lad and if the lads who caused it still feel guilty to this day and are ashamed for the rest of their lives.
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Something to confess????
 
safcrob said:
This happened years ago, a school lad was chased by a bunch of school lads on bunny hill, the lad getting chased ended up getting ran over and died. Every time I pass bunny hill I think about that lad and if the lads who caused it still feel guilty to this day and are ashamed for the rest of their lives.
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Why would they be ashamed? They are as much to blame as the driver of the car.
 
safcrob said:
This happened years ago, a school lad was chased by a bunch of school lads on bunny hill, the lad getting chased ended up getting ran over and died. Every time I pass bunny hill I think about that lad and if the lads who caused it still feel guilty to this day and are ashamed for the rest of their lives.
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They need locked up if they've forgotten about it.
 
Things were very different back then. Bullying at school happened (certainly at my school) but the majority of it was not dealt with appropriately. I’m not saying it wasn’t but if we’re honest, certainly back in the 1970s bullying wasn’t high on most schools priorities and I’d doubt if any of them would have had a formal policy about dealing with it.
I remember one Indian lad at my school. He was tall, had long hair and was obviously gay. He was bullied mercilessly and over a long period and it probably psychologically scarred him for life. As far as I was aware the school did nothing. These days, that type of bullying wouldn’t be allowed to get that far.
I was bullied at school as well by one big lad in particular. It was one of the reasons I hated school. I hope he reflected on his actions as he got older and realised what he put me through.
 
Everyone has something in their past that makes them wince. People should never ask for absolution. If people are truly sorry they accept the reality of what they've done and shoulder the burden of guilt as a painful responsibility.
 
On a more football/flippant note. Do McMenemy and Moyes ever stop and ponder their actions? Does BSA ever think mebbes I should’ve stayed for the whole game? Etc.
 
sambantam82 said:
Everyone has something in their past that makes them wince. People should never ask for absolution. If people are truly sorry they accept the reality of what they've done and shoulder the burden of guilt as a painful responsibility.
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Guilt is not a good thing long term. It's a useful adaptive emotion which exists to teach lessons not to repeat social wrongs. Once that lesson is truly learned it's essentially a useless emotion wished on us to satisfy others who think we should pay for a lifetime. Extended guilt pays nothing back in analysis, unless we go old testament.
Be sorry, change, move on with using what you have learned.
 
I think that it depends upon the person. Guilt on a conscience is like carrying around a bag of bricks, all you have to do is put it down and walk away but that's the trick I suppose. It sounds easy.
 
A mate of mine from school was being badly bullied by one of the so-called ‘hard lads’ for years, and ended up accidentally killing the other lad after punching him in retaliation. I haven’t seen him for ages, but apparently he’s turned to drink and attempted suicide as a result of the guilt.

Two lives ruined over some bullshit.
 
Girl I was at school with made up a story that her and a male teacher were having an affair.
He was arrested at school, sacked and his wife left him.
It didnt get to court because she admitted that she had made the whole thing up.
That poor fella lost everything.
I often wonder now that she will be in her 50s how she feels about what she did
 
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I don’t think they set out to kill him. You also changed bunch of school lads to “gang of them”.
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Going back to another thread on here, I used gang, as the other is a word I refuse to use in that context. Either word does not specify a number, but certainly implies more than one.
 
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