Getting over a break up

Lionel Hutzz said:
She liked to be very rough hope this satisfies all you perverts ;) and thought that sex was the most important thing in a relationship. We actually met because she saw me out and searched me on social media and added me , then as soon as I became single starting messaging me constantly, she's very good at manipulating people though and can be very charming when it suits.
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Lionel Hutzz said:
She liked to be very rough hope this satisfies all you perverts ;) and thought that sex was the most important thing in a relationship. We actually met because she saw me out and searched me on social media and added me , then as soon as I became single starting messaging me constantly, she's very good at manipulating people though and can be very charming when it suits.
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Is it out of order of me to ask you for her name so I can add her on Facebook ?
 
Lionel Hutzz said:
Split up with my long term partner a few weeks back now and have been really struggling since. Last November was the climax of about 5 years of depression relating to childhood trauma and took the plunge and went to docs and was provided with 200mg of sertraline which has been very effective in improving my mood. Unfortunately the side effect of the sertraline was a decrease in libido which partner was not happy about. She wanted me to stop the sertraline as it was having a negative effect on her which I thought was not very understanding but let it go.
Then 3 weeks ago I was very tired from work and rejected her advances, she then went crying to her mums and ever since I've had a barrage of abuse from her family and friends.

Don't really know what to do now as have been sat in the house for weeks other than the gym and work.

Other than the usual "inbox me hun" or "bucking another wad" has anyone been in a similar position that can offer any advice?
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I don't normally join threads like this but, in this case i will make an exception, its very simple for me, just focus on getting yourself better mate, do what you need for you, sounds like your well rid of this lass like.
 
Lionel Hutzz said:
She liked to be very rough hope this satisfies all you perverts ;) and thought that sex was the most important thing in a relationship. We actually met because she saw me out and searched me on social media and added me , then as soon as I became single starting messaging me constantly, she's very good at manipulating people though and can be very charming when it suits.
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f***ing hell, that’s absolutely mental!

Out of interest, did you find you were more complicit to her behaviour before you were on the meds? It just popped into my head that she might have wanted you off the meds so she could have more control over you and used the sex as an excuse she thought you’d fall for.

Maybe not but either way, the more you post the more it sounds like you’re better off without.
 
Man About Town said:
Your posts on this thread equate to stalking as they bare no relation to the subject content, this is the shit side of the SMB - when your down some worm will crawl out from a rock to make you feel worse, now fuck off and suck your lemons elsewhere.
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Nothing from the OP denying it

Lionel Hutzz said:
This relates to a very stupid comment I made a few years ago in which I questioned the numbers who had died after watching in hindsight a very biased documentary. I have since apologised and deeply regret saying it.
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Apology accepted then mate
 
On a simple level she doesn't sound like your relationship means anything if all she is concerned about is a shag from you or lack of it
Very odd
 
Lionel Hutzz said:
This relates to a very stupid comment I made a few years ago in which I questioned the numbers who had died after watching in hindsight a very biased documentary. I have since apologised and deeply regret saying it.
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While I wouldn't agree with comments like that having visited several concentration camps, the reaction of people to these sort of opinions always astounds me. Control of expression of opinions alway seems something the nazis would do :confused:.
 
Lionel Hutzz said:
Split up with my long term partner a few weeks back now and have been really struggling since. Last November was the climax of about 5 years of depression relating to childhood trauma and took the plunge and went to docs and was provided with 200mg of sertraline which has been very effective in improving my mood. Unfortunately the side effect of the sertraline was a decrease in libido which partner was not happy about. She wanted me to stop the sertraline as it was having a negative effect on her which I thought was not very understanding but let it go.
Then 3 weeks ago I was very tired from work and rejected her advances, she then went crying to her mums and ever since I've had a barrage of abuse from her family and friends.

Don't really know what to do now as have been sat in the house for weeks other than the gym and work.

Other than the usual "inbox me hun" or "bucking another wad" has anyone been in a similar position that can offer any advice?
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I know saying you're well out of it won't help because being rejected when you're already down isn't likely to help.

Try to keep busy and look after yourself as well as you can. Keep on with the treatment and by the time you get over her and you will, you will hopefully be in the right frame of mind to start another relationship. I hope things work out for you.
 
Lionel Hutzz said:
Split up with my long term partner a few weeks back now and have been really struggling since. Last November was the climax of about 5 years of depression relating to childhood trauma and took the plunge and went to docs and was provided with 200mg of sertraline which has been very effective in improving my mood. Unfortunately the side effect of the sertraline was a decrease in libido which partner was not happy about. She wanted me to stop the sertraline as it was having a negative effect on her which I thought was not very understanding but let it go.
Then 3 weeks ago I was very tired from work and rejected her advances, she then went crying to her mums and ever since I've had a barrage of abuse from her family and friends.

Don't really know what to do now as have been sat in the house for weeks other than the gym and work.

Other than the usual "inbox me hun" or "bucking another wad" has anyone been in a similar position that can offer any advice?
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Is her family aware of the affect of sertraline on your libido or is the only version of events they know about is you knocking back her advances?

Them having the full story would at least stop you being the bad guy here.

More seriously, if this is her attitude and you're still getting grief the you need to break contact and move of. You're being treat for depression and their behaviour towards you will not be helping.

Change phone numbers if necessary (swap out your mobile SIM), even if the break in contact turns out to be only short term so you at least get the space you need.

My take is you need time to get sorted and the situation as you describe is not helping.

Lionel Hutzz said:
What makes it worse is she is a mental health worker
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Bloody hell!!! She if anyone should understand.

Has she never heard of self-stimulation while you get sorted?

This is actually a serious remark.
 
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Lionel Hutzz said:
Split up with my long term partner a few weeks back now and have been really struggling since. Last November was the climax of about 5 years of depression relating to childhood trauma and took the plunge and went to docs and was provided with 200mg of sertraline which has been very effective in improving my mood. Unfortunately the side effect of the sertraline was a decrease in libido which partner was not happy about. She wanted me to stop the sertraline as it was having a negative effect on her which I thought was not very understanding but let it go.
Then 3 weeks ago I was very tired from work and rejected her advances, she then went crying to her mums and ever since I've had a barrage of abuse from her family and friends.

Don't really know what to do now as have been sat in the house for weeks other than the gym and work.

Other than the usual "inbox me hun" or "bucking another wad" has anyone been in a similar position that can offer any advice?
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Better off without her and her friends mate if that’s how they react, it might not seem like it at the minute but people who put you down and blame you for mental health issues are going to do you far more harm than good. Keep your chin up and scuttle her sister.
 

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