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Depression is a tough one, a doctor will prescribe tablets which may help but it's far deeper than that.

Going off the OP you can try to help people but whether they want to listen is a completely different matter, some just live in their own little bubble which is very hard to break out of.
 


Depression is a tough one, a doctor will prescribe tablets which may help but it's far deeper than that.

Going off the OP you can try to help people but whether they want to listen is a completely different matter, some just live in their own little bubble which is very hard to break out of.

Good way of describing it. Ive been through that when its been at its worst, you just feel so distant from everyone around you
 
I had it really bad about 12 years ago. I was diagnosed as clinically depressed.
I wouldn't leave the house, didn't want company and got myself in some right states to the point where I was imagining things.
I wouldn't take medication and thought the counselling was a waste of time.
I did think about ending it and at one time convinced myself everyone else would be better off if I did.
I got through it by having supportive bosses, and a wife who willed me to beat it. You have to want to beat it. Eventually, after about 10 months, I got that will and did beat it.
I will never be the same person as I was pre depression and I just hope it never returns.
If you think a mate has it then take him to one side and talk to him about it. Get him to go to his Doctor. A lot of blokes won't cos they are ashamed but you really need to accept that it's not a weakness, it's a terrible illness and you can't fight it on your own.
 
I had it really bad about 12 years ago. I was diagnosed as clinically depressed.
I wouldn't leave the house, didn't want company and got myself in some right states to the point where I was imagining things.
I wouldn't take medication and thought the counselling was a waste of time.
I did think about ending it and at one time convinced myself everyone else would be better off if I did.
I got through it by having supportive bosses, and a wife who willed me to beat it. You have to want to beat it. Eventually, after about 10 months, I got that will and did beat it.
I will never be the same person as I was pre depression and I just hope it never returns.
If you think a mate has it then take him to one side and talk to him about it. Get him to go to his Doctor. A lot of blokes won't cos they are ashamed but you really need to accept that it's not a weakness, it's a terrible illness and you can't fight it on your own.

Sorry mate, I can relate to that totally. These people who say 'pull yourself together' who dont know what its really like dont realise how fortunate they are to have not had it properly
 
Good way of describing it. Ive been through that when its been at its worst, you just feel so distant from everyone around you

Did you ever get it where you could be around people and perfectly fine then, as soon you leave them and you're on your own (I'm talking about literal minutes here), you felt horrifically alone and down?
 
Did you ever get it where you could be around people and perfectly fine then, as soon you leave them and you're on your own (I'm talking about literal minutes here), you felt horrifically alone and down?

Tbh mate its difficult, kind of the other way round. Peoples company became a hindrance, Ive buried my head in the sand before but over time have accepted I just have it and thats the way it is

Is there a route cause with yours or is it a mixture of allsorts of things..?

Mixed bag I think mate, past events (medical mainly) and just me as a person probably
 
Sorry mate, I can relate to that totally. These people who say 'pull yourself together' who dont know what its really like dont realise how fortunate they are to have not had it properly
this is me tbf.

Just can't comprehend it, the amount of people it seemingly effects though, must make me wrong.
 
no but you have an inclination to get depressed, is what I mean. It's no different to those who have been diagnosed with depression.

I don't though. I can't recall a day when I've felt "depressed". I feel sadness and joy when it's appropriate but I don't get depressed. I've been fortunate.

Check out the people who suffer from depression, some of whom are posting on this very thread and you'll probably find they come across as the life and soul of the party on here. The other side of the coin which is why one form of "depression" is known as Bi Polar.
 
Sorry mate, I can relate to that totally. These people who say 'pull yourself together' who dont know what its really like dont realise how fortunate they are to have not had it properly

Good Luck mate with yours and remember you MUST fight it. Try to focus on all the positive things in your life and make sure you have someone to talk to about it if you need to.
Pm me anytime mate.
 
Tbh mate its difficult, kind of the other way round. Peoples company became a hindrance, Ive buried my head in the sand before but over time have accepted I just have it and thats the way it is

Acceptance is vital in beating it/coming to terms with it I feel.

I've only recently got myself down the doctors to get it sorted out. They offered medication but I didn't want that, think I'm gonna try the counselling route and hope for the best.
 
For once in my life I'm going to post a serious & considered response...

...identifying it is almost impossible in others unless you have previous knowledge, experience & a willingness to see! Much to my shame I missed all signs when my other half (no!) developed from post natal depression into proper, real "black dog" depression. It was a particularly good time in my life, socially, career, new house etc etc & I blithely ignored warning signs. She went through absolute hell & it probably took over a year before I realised the seriousness of it all. Fortunately she got help & I eventually took the blinkers off.

Like others on this board I thought folk should just "pull yourself together" or "We all have dark days"

NO

Diagnosed depression is a kernt & to those of you living with it, form your own coping mechanism's. Medication DOES work, but also cognitive therapy.

Am nae expert but I think I'm better equipped now.

PS She's managing it now. still some dark days, but they're less intense & more infrequent. Added to which I stopped disappearing down the pub saying "Fuck saves woman, straighten your face!":oops:
 
Tbh mate its difficult, kind of the other way round. Peoples company became a hindrance, Ive buried my head in the sand before but over time have accepted I just have it and thats the way it is

the internet and this forum must help abit marra? you're a well known face around these parts, come across more 'normal' then most TBH.
 
When I went to see my GP he said

"That's the hard part over"

And to be fair, he has a point.
It's never easy to admit you have a problem but it's the fact that you want to deal with is the important.

People will respect you for realising that you want to deal with whatever is troubling you rather than bottling it up.

I saw a mental health worker for a few months and then nothing for ages as I was waiting to see a psychotherapist.
By the time I saw them I'd worked on my issues myself and got better for doing it!

I still have the odd wobble now and again but I need to have a look back over my self help stuff and that should sort it.

Seriously though if you're mate or you or whoever is troubled by something you should speak to someone about it.
There's no shame in it and it you will feel better for it.

Face your fear and all that
 
Tbh mate its difficult, kind of the other way round. Peoples company became a hindrance, Ive buried my head in the sand before but over time have accepted I just have it and thats the way it is



Mixed bag I think mate, past events (medical mainly) and just me as a person probably


Have you had CBT at all..?
 
so from what i can gather off previous posts, signs will be..
not wanting company
bad temper
withdrawn?
 
I have it, not ashamed of it either. Wouldnt wish it on anybody

So has our lass, she has SAD also, it is very hard at times....

Lots of crying, bad temper, tiredness, not wanting to do anything. It's not nice.
 
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