Stuck In A Rut - Page 5

The Butcher · 9th July 2012, 04:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Stevie Freestein II

I often used to feel that way, and sometimes still do.

One night I had a few beers at the local and went home at about 11:30. I wasn't tired so I put on 3 separate loads of washing to save on the leccy. Between spin cycles I started to jot down on paper what I thought would make me happy in life and eventually I got tired enough to go to bed.

In the morning I was astounded with what I'd done the night before, it was like the 'Elves and the Shoemaker'. I came downstairs to see that the washing had been done and I read what I'd written re: my 'life plan'.

Everything was interconnected. I'd started off with wanting a new job. To do that I'd need to either get a different job in the same profession or to re-train.

To re-train I'd need to save cash or to generate more in order to cope with a dip in salary or to pay for training or university. That led to more ideas about saving and cutting costs. I don't like driving or car ownership so the 'drunken solution' was to commute by train and to cycle to the train station. I wouldn't need a car so I wouldn't get stressed by the commute and I'd save cash!

I'd even wrote something about living closer to the coast and I couldn't find a reason why I couldn't achieve that aim.

In the end I found that it would be up to me to change things. But then I also saw that the 'drudgery' of a mortgage, nagging wife and 2 brats wasn't as bad as it seemed and that often the drudgery is self-inflicted.

You perhaps need to find/make time for you and your Mrs to have a few hours apart each week to pursue your own hobbies, it's a lot easier with 2 parents in the house than doing it on your own after a failed relationship.

If you still get on with each other OK you may need to spice up your relationship a bit! Rememebr that at one point you were excited about getting dressed up and making an effort to meet with her for dates with her! She's still the same person even though her boobs are droopy and she spends too much cash on useless sh!te and watches awful TV.

Peace.

Quality, one of the best I have read for a while ! and very true.

WheyHey · 9th July 2012, 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by The Butcher

Quality, one of the best I have read for a while ! and very true.

Dinar like Jaspers Mrs has a fine set of top knackers.

Stevie Freestein II · 9th July 2012, 04:23 PM

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Originally Posted by The Butcher

Quality, one of the best I have read for a while ! and very true.

I still commute to the same job I've had for 12 years!

I spent 5 years living on my own but now shacked up agian and another kid due in November.

But I learned to accept my fate and I still have a lot more opportunities than my parents had.

As you know, you have to make a bit of time for yourself but then allow your other half to have equal freedom.

Also it's never easy with a young kid in the house and Jasper seems to be doing right by devoting his time to his young kid.

It can be a bit boring I s'pose but I get a 12 pack of Peroni each Thursday night after work for £12 and it lasts a week.

Another good idea is to apply for flexible working - I do 4 x 9.5 hours days to reduce the commute and to make more time for DIY, getting nagged at etc.

Jasper · 9th July 2012, 05:25 PM

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Originally Posted by WheyHey

Dinar like Jaspers Mrs has a fine set of top knackers.

porv

Good read that Stevie. Food for thought.

Stevie Freestein II · 9th July 2012, 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Jasper

porv

Good read that Stevie. Food for thought.

Good luck, don't be too hard on yourself and put your kid first as it's very rewarding in the long run and they'll appreciate it.

mini-x2 · 9th July 2012, 09:30 PM

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Originally Posted by JAZZMANB

totally.. if you try and go on as you did before your fkd...had mine quite late so it felt like a new chapter...done all my partying,hols etc so no regrets...kids are class.

This.
There's a ten year gap between both of mine so I'm rediscovering the joys of having a young 'un all over again.
And I'd have more if they didn't cost so much.

super-niall · 9th July 2012, 09:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Stevie Freestein II

She's still the same person even though her boobs are droopy and she spends too much cash on useless sh!te and watches awful TV.

Peace.

Waxon · 10th July 2012, 07:29 PM

Get out of it marra

powburn red · 10th July 2012, 07:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Jasper

Anybody else feeling like this? Both me and the missus are fed up with work, and ive always believed that you spend too much time of your life at work for it to make you unhappy. We have a young bairn so life at the minute is get home put him to bed, eat and by then are too knackered to do owt, so we do nowt. Sick of driving up and down the A19 all day from one urban jungle to another. Is the next 40 years of my life destined to be like this?

Lads need their mates sometimes-a good night of craic away from the missus and kids can cheer you up nee end.Sometimes if its like three days away it gives you something to look forward to and those days pass much more smoothly-i can defo say this will work!
Think about that poor cop that got killed off work yesterday- i bet he would swap with you now-get on the phone and gan out for a beer this weekend

Buzzcock · 10th July 2012, 08:25 PM

All together now !

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bxc5bdQ6bng