Advised need on issues with management at work!!

1982DurhamSAFC · 12th April 2012, 07:57 PM

I work in an office of approx 10 people who have worked together for approx 10-15 years however in this office is various cliques. I'm 30 & worked for the company for 12-13 years.

Basically my issue is that my supervisor who is female mid forties seems to have it in for me. I think this is mainly down to me questioning why my holidays keep getting denied & various other holiday related issues. She had a right go at me approx 3 weeks ago.

The desks are set in the office in 4's so there is a half cross partition between the desks & she sits to the left of me within a few yards. For the last 3 weeks she hasn't said a word to me unless she has had too however I won't strike conversation because I feel every word I speak I will be judged. I constantly feel uneasy & on egg shells when she's around. She is really touchy. It used to be about work related stuff & maybe fair comment at times but for the last 2 years I'm always up to date etc.

I mentioned this to my manager who is male & early 30's & his response was "your both over 30 sort it out between yourselves I'm not here to babysit I've more to worry about than this".

I have mentioned this various times about her attitude towards me & it's sorted for a month or so until she can find something else to try & have ago at me. I feel she's always looking for something to get at me about.

I'm really fed up I've been on like this for years & don't feel I can go to HR otherwise it'll stir things up more & everyone will find out.

I take this issues home with me & can't sleep. My wife is sick of me constantly talking about this women.

I love my job but it's certain individuals that spoils everything. I keep thinking to get a new job but I think better the devil you know plus I think my job is pretty secure which is extremely important in the current climate.

Please help lads & lasses

tunstall birdman · 12th April 2012, 07:59 PM

Is she worth buck?

1982DurhamSAFC · 12th April 2012, 08:02 PM

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Originally Posted by tunstall birdman

Is she worth buck?

Probs

She's a fcukin bitch tho!!

Do you have any serious advise tho mate?

RestlessNatives · 12th April 2012, 08:07 PM

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Originally Posted by 1982DurhamSAFC

I work in an office of approx 10 people who have worked together for approx 10-15 years however in this office is various cliques. I'm 30 & worked for the company for 12-13 years.

Basically my issue is that my supervisor who is female mid forties seems to have it in for me. I think this is mainly down to me questioning why my holidays keep getting denied & various other holiday related issues. She had a right go at me approx 3 weeks ago.

The desks are set in the office in 4's so there is a half cross partition between the desks & she sits to the left of me within a few yards. For the last 3 weeks she hasn't said a word to me unless she has had too however I won't strike conversation because I feel every word I speak I will be judged. I constantly feel uneasy & on egg shells when she's around. She is really touchy. It used to be about work related stuff & maybe fair comment at times but for the last 2 years I'm always up to date etc.

I mentioned this to my manager who is male & early 30's & his response was "your both over 30 sort it out between yourselves I'm not here to babysit I've more to worry about than this".

I have mentioned this various times about her attitude towards me & it's sorted for a month or so until she can find something else to try & have ago at me. I feel she's always looking for something to get at me about.

I'm really fed up I've been on like this for years & don't feel I can go to HR otherwise it'll stir things up more & everyone will find out.

I take this issues home with me & can't sleep. My wife is sick of me constantly talking about this women.

I love my job but it's certain individuals that spoils everything. I keep thinking to get a new job but I think better the devil you know plus I think my job is pretty secure which is extremely important in the current climate.

Please help lads & lasses

He sort of has a point.
You have a few options, one of them being leave and get another job.
Another is swallow your pride and try and get on with her. Include her in stuff. Do something trivial like buy cakes for the team but offer her the first one.
She might still act like a twat but you'll know you've tried.
If I left work today I'd keep in touch with a total of 3 people and one has been my mate for years. I still try and get on with everyone whilst I'm there even if i don't like them. You spend an awful lot of time at work. Pointless having enemies over trivial matters.

Sideshow Bob2 · 12th April 2012, 08:07 PM

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Originally Posted by 1982DurhamSAFC

Probs

She's a fcukin bitch tho!!

Do you have any serious advise tho mate?

Fucking hell man, you've been here for three years and you expect serious advice?

Shit in her knicker drawer.

Giddup Sausage! · 12th April 2012, 08:08 PM

She wants you man u bellend. You are married tho so it's pissing her off.

Get her took up the arse and then she is putty in your hands. Might even nab a promotion.

Sheesh

archiesdad · 12th April 2012, 08:10 PM

why not grow some balls, ask her to sit dowm over a coffee, tell her your how you feel and sort it out like adults. You don't have to like each other but if you have to spend half you waking hrs with her being civil would be a start.

Roid · 12th April 2012, 08:11 PM

Punch her in the fanny.

intothelight · 12th April 2012, 08:12 PM

Flash her!

supernaut1968 · 12th April 2012, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by 1982DurhamSAFC

I work in an office of approx 10 people who have worked together for approx 10-15 years however in this office is various cliques. I'm 30 & worked for the company for 12-13 years.

Basically my issue is that my supervisor who is female mid forties seems to have it in for me. I think this is mainly down to me questioning why my holidays keep getting denied & various other holiday related issues. She had a right go at me approx 3 weeks ago.

The desks are set in the office in 4's so there is a half cross partition between the desks & she sits to the left of me within a few yards. For the last 3 weeks she hasn't said a word to me unless she has had too however I won't strike conversation because I feel every word I speak I will be judged. I constantly feel uneasy & on egg shells when she's around. She is really touchy. It used to be about work related stuff & maybe fair comment at times but for the last 2 years I'm always up to date etc.

I mentioned this to my manager who is male & early 30's & his response was "your both over 30 sort it out between yourselves I'm not here to babysit I've more to worry about than this".

I have mentioned this various times about her attitude towards me & it's sorted for a month or so until she can find something else to try & have ago at me. I feel she's always looking for something to get at me about.

I'm really fed up I've been on like this for years & don't feel I can go to HR otherwise it'll stir things up more & everyone will find out.

I take this issues home with me & can't sleep. My wife is sick of me constantly talking about this women.

I love my job but it's certain individuals that spoils everything. I keep thinking to get a new job but I think better the devil you know plus I think my job is pretty secure which is extremely important in the current climate.

Please help lads & lasses

Make a list of everything she says and does. Dates/times etc. If it continues, bring it up at a 121 and tell her you'd like things to improve otherwise you'll make a formal complaint.

Give her a chance first.