Once kids arrive in a relationship you don't exist?

[gards2]

A girlfriend of mine who is single and 35yrs old has had her first child and came to visit me. I hadn't seen her for nearly a year, the baby is about 6 months old and the father is not in the picture it seems.

What struck me is how preoccupied with the baby she was, even though he was sitting in a chair minding his own. I realised very quickly that I was an unnecessary distraction in my own home and wondered what the fellas from here did about feeling like that? If that's what happens...The baby is the most important thing in here world, I realise that...but I may aswell have not even been in the room! Is it normal too feel that way?

I thought having kids would consummate the relationship but it can also drive a wedge between you and the other half can't it?

[LUBITSCH]

Originally Posted by gards2

A girlfriend of mine who is single and 35yrs old has had her first child and came to visit me. I hadn't seen her for nearly a year, the baby is about 6 months old and the father is not in the picture it seems.

What struck me is how preoccupied with the baby she was, even though he was sitting in a chair minding his own. I realised very quickly that I was an unnecessary distraction in my own home and wondered what the fellas from here did about feeling like that? If that's what happens...The baby is the most important thing in here world, I realise that...but I may aswell have not even been in the room! Is it normal too feel that way?

I thought having kids would consummate the relationship but it can also drive a wedge between you and the other half can't it?

I'm afraid it most certainly can.

[Nee Onions Mate]

Originally Posted by gards2

A girlfriend of mine who is single and 35yrs old has had her first child and came to visit me. I hadn't seen her for nearly a year, the baby is about 6 months old and the father is not in the picture it seems.

What struck me is how preoccupied with the baby she was, even though he was sitting in a chair minding his own. I realised very quickly that I was an unnecessary distraction in my own home and wondered what the fellas from here did about feeling like that? If that's what happens...The baby is the most important thing in here world, I realise that...but I may aswell have not even been in the room! Is it normal too feel that way?

I thought having kids would consummate the relationship but it can also drive a wedge between you and the other half can't it?

It she a girlfriend as in a bird you are rattling or a girlfriend as in a lass who is a mate (if such a thing exists)?

[Gideon Gungeon]

i don't welcome children in my home. the nephews all right now he's grown up but bairns often turn your mates and their bewers into idiots

[Flavonoids]

Kids are great, it's a sadness I've not yet produced any of my own. As it stands I've never been jealous of one (other than when I was one myself, during the whole Mousetrap incident).

[ivanthereasonable]

Originally Posted by gards2

A girlfriend of mine who is single and 35yrs old has had her first child and came to visit me. I hadn't seen her for nearly a year, the baby is about 6 months old and the father is not in the picture it seems.

What struck me is how preoccupied with the baby she was, even though he was sitting in a chair minding his own. I realised very quickly that I was an unnecessary distraction in my own home and wondered what the fellas from here did about feeling like that? If that's what happens...The baby is the most important thing in here world, I realise that...but I may aswell have not even been in the room! Is it normal too feel that way?

I thought having kids would consummate the relationship but it can also drive a wedge between you and the other half can't it?

you need to get more involved.so she cant ignore you.
next she breast feeding the sprog,ask her,as only one is being used,if you could snuggle up as well.and if she's ok with that can we have pic's.
please note.no offense was intended in the making of this post,and is not intended as advice on how the get "more attension" from your girlfriend.

i am not,and have never been,except on one occation, 47.

[AlpineExile]

Originally Posted by ivanthereasonable

you need to get more involved.so she cant ignore you.
next she breast feeding the sprog,ask her,as only one is being used,if you could snuggle up as well.and if she's ok with that can we have pic's.
please note.no offense was intended in the making of this post,and is not intended as advice on how the get "more attension" from your girlfriend.

i am not,and have never been,except on one occation, 47.

Quite likely to get both more attention and more tension, aye.

[big and daft]

Originally Posted by Flavonoids

Kids are great, it's a sadness I've not yet produced any of my own. As it stands I've never been jealous of one (other than when I was one myself, during the whole Mousetrap incident).

jafffa like?

[Flavonoids]

Originally Posted by big and daft

jafffa like?

Not to my knowledge, I could be, and that would be a shame.

Yourself?

[RTRsBM]

kids do take over your life without a doubt if you are a good parent but the case you describe is a bit extreme, coming to see you and then ignoring you