ollie c
Striker
Great postI can kind of see all sides of this debate.
There will always be parents pushing their kids, some too hard and some not hard enough, but the one thing we have to get back to is that the important part of this is not the parents, it is the kids themselves. As a 13 year old kid I was playing junior cricket and not getting the opportunities to play higher age groups and senior cricket as I thought I should be. I took it upon myself to find another club and although I appreciate this put some responsibility on my parent in terms of transport, it was purely my decision. My parents had no sway on it at all. Equally at the same time other kids in the same boat chose to stay and play with their mates, again a decision I completely respected.
Now being involved as a junior coach I get parents on at me all the time asking why their kids aren't selected, aren't batting/bowling etc. Most of the time they have a friendly, considered approach, but occasionally can go over the top about it. For me though I take pride that I always try to pick our best team at each age group, whilst still considering the clubs interests in terms of developing all players no matter what their ability. Not once has a parent swayed me into picking someone/batting someone etc as I believe I made the right decision in the interest of the club, and in trying to make sure everyone has the chance they deserve. I will always however explain my decision and if they dont agree that is their perogative, and 99% of the time that is where the debate ends.
Again, if a parent disagrees they may well take their kid elsewhere, thats fine if they wish to do it that way. I have in my experience however found that most of the pushy parents are of kids who aren't the most talented, and they actually realise that themselves. I keep them involved and pay as much coaching attention to them as anyone, but they are generally playing the game to spend time with their mates, and they are happy to do so, something their parents dont always appreciate.
Apologies if that was a little disjointed but I think we are finding problems here that don't really exist. Durham has a junior structure that is the envy of most if not all counties, and although some clubs are struggling to get teams out all the time, the bigger picture is a lot rosier than many on here make out.