Psychological issues of weight loss

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I've been exercising and dieting since Jan now and overall lost almost 3 stone. Before this I was always under the impression that losing weight would make me happy but if anything I feel the opposite toward it. Since getting under 15st it hit me that I hadn't been that weight for over 10 years and to be suddenly that way again I feel like my mind can't accept it.

In a nutshell my mind isn't keeping up with my body.

Has anyone else been through this and how did they overcome it? From what I've read on other forums people have suggested counselling.
 


I've been exercising and dieting since Jan now and overall lost almost 3 stone. Before this I was always under the impression that losing weight would make me happy but if anything I feel the opposite toward it. Since getting under 15st it hit me that I hadn't been that weight for over 10 years and to be suddenly that way again I feel like my mind can't accept it.

In a nutshell my mind isn't keeping up with my body.

Has anyone else been through this and how did they overcome it? From what I've read on other forums people have suggested counselling.
I always feel better after losing a few clem so not sure I can help. Are you still having treats or are you on a really strict diet?
Reward yourself when you hit a target like buy some clothes that you would never have fitted into or go out for a meal you wouldn't have when on your diet.
 
I always feel better after losing a few clem so not sure I can help. Are you still having treats or are you on a really strict diet?
Reward yourself when you hit a target like buy some clothes that you would never have fitted into or go out for a meal you wouldn't have when on your diet.
I can manage on a diet but sometimes I'm still thinking like a fatty where I could just gorge on junk food and when I do I don't realise I'm doing it till I've already ate the food. An example is if I've had a crap night sleep, instead of just having my breakfast I'll need something to give me a quick sugar boost, then 1 will turn into 3.
It's not me hating the way I look, I feel great as in I'm in smaller clothes and the fittest I've ever been but when looking at myself I still visualise myself at 17st 10lb.
 
Try to focus on all the positives your new weight brings, like the previous poster said...buy some new clothes, get a new haircut, things that will make you feel good. Try walking about with 3-stone in weights in a rucksack on your back to remind yourself what it was like to carry all that weight before.

But...if your unhappiness before wasn't really to do with being overweight, losing weight won't fix things...so maybe think about why you were/are unhappy and try making a few other gradual changes in your life.

Just a few thoughts...hope you feel better about things soon mate.

Looks like our posts crossed....sounds like you just need to remind yourself of the good eating habits you've picked up...maintaining weight loss is always the hardest bit.
 
I can manage on a diet but sometimes I'm still thinking like a fatty where I could just gorge on junk food and when I do I don't realise I'm doing it till I've already ate the food. An example is if I've had a crap night sleep, instead of just having my breakfast I'll need something to give me a quick sugar boost, then 1 will turn into 3.
It's not me hating the way I look, I feel great as in I'm in smaller clothes and the fittest I've ever been but when looking at myself I still visualise myself at 17st 10lb.
Do you use the myfitnesspal app? If you get in the habit of recording everything honestly you might think twice before having too much junk.
 
Do you use the myfitnesspal app? If you get in the habit of recording everything honestly you might think twice before having too much junk.
I've been using it for months now, I've seen the biggest difference since monitoring the macros. If I do eat junk food then I'll still add it but then limit what I eat the rest of the day, meaning I'll sometimes skip meals to keep within my targets.
 
I can manage on a diet but sometimes I'm still thinking like a fatty where I could just gorge on junk food and when I do I don't realise I'm doing it till I've already ate the food. An example is if I've had a crap night sleep, instead of just having my breakfast I'll need something to give me a quick sugar boost, then 1 will turn into 3.
It's not me hating the way I look, I feel great as in I'm in smaller clothes and the fittest I've ever been but when looking at myself I still visualise myself at 17st 10lb.

You're doing too much too soon by the sounds of it mate and are putting a lot of pressure on yourself because you have an underlying fear of returning to that weight, does that sound about right?

There are people you can speak to but try reading up on it too. As with anything, putting size on or taking weight off its a long term thing, there's no rush, you just have to have a sustainable plan in mind and stick to it. By all means review it, track your progress and you can amend accordingly.

I went up from 9.5st up to 14.4st by training my arse off to put that size on but I still think I'm skinny. It's a just a psychological thing.
 
You're doing too much too soon by the sounds of it mate and are putting a lot of pressure on yourself because you have an underlying fear of returning to that weight, does that sound about right?

There are people you can speak to but try reading up on it too. As with anything, putting size on or taking weight off its a long term thing, there's no rush, you just have to have a sustainable plan in mind and stick to it. By all means review it, track your progress and you can amend accordingly.

I went up from 9.5st up to 14.4st by training my arse off to put that size on but I still think I'm skinny. It's a just a psychological thing.
If anything I'm suprised I haven't lost more weight, I'm hoping to lose another 2-3 stone by the end of the year to bring my BMI close to the 25 mark.
There's just so many things happening to me that haven't for years like my stamina being really good and shagging like a teenager :D.
The other night I had to check something on my back and noticed it was looking really defined, which I wasn't expecting either as it's not something I usually look at as most of the fat on me is round the front.
 
i think it sounds like you're very focused on your end goal which is excellent but remember that the real end goal in life is death :lol: bit morbid i know but regardless of your beliefs that's still true.

But you don't spend your life preparing to die, you try to enjoy the ride and that's what i think should be your focus, enjoy training and enjoy your food yes you will need to restrict yourself but if you can find things reasonably low in calories (roast potatoes in the oven with a small amount of oil ;) ) you might be less likely to binge on the really high sugar high fat stuff but ultimately remember you're losing weight and you're binging so enjoy eating the junk because it's fun.
 
You're doing too much too soon by the sounds of it mate and are putting a lot of pressure on yourself because you have an underlying fear of returning to that weight, does that sound about right?

There are people you can speak to but try reading up on it too. As with anything, putting size on or taking weight off its a long term thing, there's no rush, you just have to have a sustainable plan in mind and stick to it. By all means review it, track your progress and you can amend accordingly.

I went up from 9.5st up to 14.4st by training my arse off to put that size on but I still think I'm skinny. It's a just a psychological thing.

It is.

When I look in the mirror nothing about me looks bigger because everything is bigger in proportion. This is why bros do chest and bis every day!
 
It is.

When I look in the mirror nothing about me looks bigger because everything is bigger in proportion. This is why bros do chest and bis every day!
isn't there a mental condition associated with it, you also think other people look bigger than you or something.

Probably a gym goers version of anorexia.
 
Sounds like the OP is losing the plot........I expect to see him on North East News, on the roof of Pure Gym with a sniper's rifle
 
I've been exercising and dieting since Jan now and overall lost almost 3 stone. Before this I was always under the impression that losing weight would make me happy but if anything I feel the opposite toward it. Since getting under 15st it hit me that I hadn't been that weight for over 10 years and to be suddenly that way again I feel like my mind can't accept it.

In a nutshell my mind isn't keeping up with my body.

Has anyone else been through this and how did they overcome it? From what I've read on other forums people have suggested counselling.
Yes, I have experienced exactly what you're talking about, myself. Your mind basically has a perception of yourself, and your 'reality', and will basically play games with you to keep you at the level of 'success' it thinks you should have. For better or for worse. It is one of the trippiest things you will ever deal with in your life.

The first time I got a six pack, I was in my early twenties and within the space of about six months from joining the gym and going everyday, I went from being fat as fuck to very ripped. Whether people like it or not, people will perceive you very, very differently when you are in exceptional shape to when you're not. In many ways it was f***ing absurd going from someone who was rejected reguarly to being the one who was doing the rejecting for example, and my mind took a f***ing long time to adapt to it. It was a very rocky road at times. But it's worth it. No you don't need counselling btw. It's just a deep level identity change, and you don't quite realise it yet. You'll get used to it.

Curiously, in a strange reverse to my original story, in the past 20 months or so, I gained around two stone and got pretty fat, not as fat as I was when I started out getting ripped back in the day originally, but hey. My mindset however still percieves myself as being hawt as fuck, and basically I'm an obnoxious entitled douchebag. Such is life. Good luck.
 
Yes, I have experienced exactly what you're talking about, myself. Your mind basically has a perception of yourself, and your 'reality', and will basically play games with you to keep you at the level of 'success' it thinks you should have. For better or for worse. It is one of the trippiest things you will ever deal with in your life.

The first time I got a six pack, I was in my early twenties and within the space of about six months from joining the gym and going everyday, I went from being fat as fuck to very ripped. Whether people like it or not, people will perceive you very, very differently when you are in exceptional shape to when you're not. In many ways it was f***ing absurd going from someone who was rejected reguarly to being the one who was doing the rejecting for example, and my mind took a f***ing long time to adapt to it. It was a very rocky road at times. But it's worth it. No you don't need counselling btw. It's just a deep level identity change, and you don't quite realise it yet. You'll get used to it.

Curiously, in a strange reverse to my original story, in the past 20 months or so, I gained around two stone and got pretty fat, not as fat as I was when I started out getting ripped back in the day originally, but hey. My mindset however still percieves myself as being hawt as fuck, and basically I'm an obnoxious entitled douchebag. Such is life. Good luck.

Cheers mate, I thought I was going mental but you've described exactly what I'm experiencing.
 
You're doing too much too soon by the sounds of it mate and are putting a lot of pressure on yourself because you have an underlying fear of returning to that weight, does that sound about right?

There are people you can speak to but try reading up on it too. As with anything, putting size on or taking weight off its a long term thing, there's no rush, you just have to have a sustainable plan in mind and stick to it. By all means review it, track your progress and you can amend accordingly.

I went up from 9.5st up to 14.4st by training my arse off to put that size on but I still think I'm skinny. It's a just a psychological thing.
Natty?
 

Yep mate. Combination of overhaul in lifestyle, change of diet, started training, eating properly. Took about a year before the real gains started happening as it was trial and error to see what programmes worked and then i was consuming a ridiculous amount of calories every day for about 6 months, had a small break and then done it again.
 
Yep mate. Combination of overhaul in lifestyle, change of diet, started training, eating properly. Took about a year before the real gains started happening as it was trial and error to see what programmes worked and then i was consuming a ridiculous amount of calories every day for about 6 months, had a small break and then done it again.
Fair play marra. I can imagine you being a bit like @Lewberry pie having never seen a mirror you didn't like.
 
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